I saw a meme posted by Gary Vaynerchuck the other day and it really made sense and reminded me of something that I’ve been around a long time but also have avoided like the plague all these years.
Tyrants or Bosses that are just total jerks who lead with fear and misery.
I’m lucky in that I’ve had a LOT of amazing bosses over the years. All of whom led a path for me to either follow or take the reigns myself to drive it up to the next level with their support. Unfortunately, it’s not that charmed for everyone and you may be reading this right now grumbling over a “bad boss.”
Here are some things that help identify when you have a BAD BOSS that is a complete mess and only hurting people more than uplifting them.
- Your boss yells, a LOT
- Nothing is ever done right, no matter how much work or how many questions asked
- They can ALWAYS do it better, they just don’t have the time (and likely never show you how they can do something better because it’s all talk)
- They come and go as they please, while holding you accountable for everything
- Teaching and inspiring? Never.
Do any of these strike a chord with you? If they do, start building that resume now and put yourself in the type of situation you deserve. We only get 1 chance to live our life, don’t let someone else’s crappy workplace leadership ruin your days at work. You’re already at work and not spending that time with friends and family, the work relationship needs to be as productive as when you walk out those doors. If you show up and hide, make yourself pretend busy counting minutes, or otherwise avoiding the place you spend 40-60 hours a week it’s time for change.
On the other side we have the Team Leaders (Team Leaders: I won’t call them BOSSES because while they may still be the boss, they don’t act bossy at all and deserve a better way to be considered) that loves what they do and want to elevate those around them. I personally take great pride in trying to be this kind of leader through all steps of my life. Work, personal, you name it.
Some of the qualities you are going to find in an amazing leader include:
- When you are stuck on something, they help. Utilizing their own experience or calling in others who may have a solution. Keeping you in the loop so you grow and learn from the experience.
- They ask the all important question “How can I help you?” — This one really speaks volumes and could be a topic unto itself. The best bosses and leaders actively are looking to help everyone around them for the greater good of the business.
- Positive reinforcement is the norm, not the exception.
- An open office door policy where anyone on the team can ask a question without having to feel devalued or ‘lower than’ others in the organization.
The more you think about it, the less BOSS is even a title we should be using anymore unless we’re describing a lousy work environment. Boss implies a greater than thou hierarchy and keeping others at arms lengths and the best leaders absolutely are not like that at all.
I’ve never heard someone say, “I hate my team leader.” but I certainly have heard, “I hate my boss.” countless times. Think about that from a culture perspective. Just the title is setting a tone even though I’m pretty sure nobody puts “BOSS” on their door. If you know someone that does actually push Boss as their title by all means message me or comment with the details I’ve love to hear about it.
My final word is simple. Surround yourself with people that lead by example to inspire and nurture you at work. The Boss? They can go kick rocks.